Relationships are beautiful to behold, especially marriage.
Whenever two people are in love it feels like heaven on earth but it can sometimes be a thing of ” had I know” as either of the spouse will begin to come up with attitudes or lifestyle that might hurt his or her partner psychologically or emotionally.
So today we are going to look at #10 reasons why some married men still cheat.
Here are the major reasons why some married men cheat.1. Immaturity: If he does not have a lot of experience in committed relationships, or if he doesn’t fully understand that his actions will inevitably have consequences like hurting his partner, he may think it is fine to have sexual… Click To Tweet
He might think of his commitment to monogamy as a jacket that he can put on or take off as he pleases, depending on the circumstances.
2. Co-occurring Issues: He may have an ongoing problem with alcohol and, or, drugs that affect his decision-making, resulting in regrettable sexual decisions.
Or maybe he has a problem like sexual addiction , meaning he compulsively engages in sexual fantasies and behaviors as a way to numb out and avoid life.
3. Insecurity: He may feel as if he is too old (or too young), not handsome enough, not rich enough, not smart enough, etc.
(An astonishing amount of male cheating is linked, at least in part, to a mid-life crisis.) To bolster his flagging ego, he seeks validation from women other than his mate, using this extracurricular spark of interest to feel wanted, desired, and worthy.
4. It’s Over, Version 1: He may want to end his current relationship. However, instead of just telling his partner that he’s unhappy and wants to break things off, he cheats and then forces her to do the dirty work.
5. It’s Over, Version 2: He may want to end his current relationship, but not until he’s got another one lined up. So he sets the stage for his next relationship while still in the first one.
6. Lack of Male Social Support: He may have undervalued his need for supportive friendships with other men, expecting his social and emotional needs to be met entirely by his significant other. And when she inevitably fails in that duty, he seeks fulfillment elsewhere.
7. Confusion About Limerence versus Commitment: He might misunderstand the difference between romantic intensity and long-term love, mistaking the neurochemical rush of early romance, technically referred to as limerence, for love, and failing to understand that in healthy, long-term relationships limerence is replaced over time with less intense, but ultimately more meaningful forms of connection.
8. Childhood Abuse: He may be reenacting or latently responding to unresolved childhood trauma—neglect, emotional abuse, physical abuse, sexual abuse, etc.
In such cases, his childhood wounds have created attachment and intimacy issues that leave him unable or unwilling to fully commit to one person.
He might also be using the excitement and distraction of sexual infidelity as a way to self-soothe the pain of these old, unhealed wounds.
9. Selfishness: It’s possible that his primary consideration is for himself and himself alone. He can therefore lie and keep secrets without remorse or regret, as long as it gets him what he wants.
It’s possible he never intended to be monogamous. Rather than seeing his vow of monogamy as a sacrifice made to and for his relationship, he views it as something to be avoided and worked around.
10. Terminal Uniqueness: He may feel like he is different and deserves something special that other men might not.
The usual rules just don’t apply to him, so he is free to reward himself outside his primary relationship whenever he wants.
So from the ten reasons above we now know some of the reasons why married men still cheat, that’s why it is important to date someone for some time and know at least what you should know before walking down the aisle to say I DO.
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